Oh the feels. How good it feels when you are being adored, showered with gifts, and seen as the perfect person and prize of their eye.
And then without warning, it all stops. That idealization is gone and no more are you on the pedestal. Now you are down below them and you have no idea what happened.
Love bombing as I define in my book, "The Last Letter" is a strategy that a Narcissist has learned over time, quite naturally through their own childhood and situations they have encountered. It is a proven strategy and survival method adapted to keep what they need at hand. That would YOU and your supply of goods to them.
This stage of the relationship hits hardest in the beginning but is used at pivotal times to reinforce or reconnect the Narcissist to you. So why DO we fall so hard for this manipulation tactic? What is it about the big tokens and that feeling of being singular that we the supply feel we need and accept toxic behaviour to have?
Someone is giving to us. And to be radically honest here, as empathic people—energy givers, it isn't usual that we give to ourselves in measures that have us feeling fulfilled with our Self. So when someone begins to shower us with praise, adoration, exaltation, we fall hard for it. FINALLY someone sees us!!
A theme throughout my book is the healing of the SELF. Giving to our Self is a huge part of the journey to Surviving Narcissism. To avoid the trap of love bombing, we have to fully love ourselves. Sounds simple right?? Well you and I both know it's not. And that is why the book I have written is so powerful. It addresses in small increments ways to heal the 4 bodies; physical, mental, emotional, spiritual, and take steps to recovering our truths. You can find out more about love bombing in Chapter 6 of my book. And if you don't have your copy yet, find it here! Stacie Rae
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